Top Kid-Spoiling Cities

Top Kid-Spoiling Cities

 Tired But Happy Mom on the Survey Cities That Spoil Their Kids Most (and What Is “Spoiling”?) A former senior editor at U.S. News & World Report, Tired But Happy Mom is, naturally, a sucker for statistics, ratings, and rankings. People love to criticize such charts, complain about their inherent unfairness, and generally declare them wrong, but Tired But Happy Mom not only loves the way they assemble disorderly and confusing variables into a coherent package, but she also likes to think that she can spot those that are...

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All-American Family

All-American Family

All-American Family: Tired But Happy Mom and the Fourth of July As a little kid growing up in Berkeley in the 1970s, Tired But Happy Mom cannot be said to have had a Rockwellian childhood. Her own mother was working on her PhD at UC Berkeley, her dad was an ice climber, and she attended an elementary school in which no single race was clearly dominant. Before walking to school, she was routinely warned to avoid Manson-like cults that might try to kidnap her, to walk around protesting hippies, to be courteous to Black Panthers while refraining...

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On “Having It All”

On “Having It All”

On (Still Not) Being Able to “Have It All”: Tired But Happy Mom’s Take on the (Still Impossible) Promise to Mothers   When the July/August issue of The Atlantic landed in her mailbox, Tired But Happy Mom couldn’t have been more pleased. The cover story was entitled “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” and those words alone said it all. Tired But Happy Mom’s first thought was: Why did it take so long for someone to write the darned thing? Apparently, it struck a resonant chime for many other people, too. A week...

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Sick from City Food?

Sick from City Food?

Tired But Happy Mom on Food Allergies and the City The first time Older Daughter had a play date with a preschool friend, the friend’s mother had to debrief Tired But Happy Mom on an important issue. Her own daughter, the very nice mom (who was also a very good doctor) explained, was severely allergic to peanuts. Any cookie, piece of bread, even a bowl of blueberries that might contain trace elements from that morning’s cereal—which might have been made in a factory containing peanut products—could send her daughter into severe...

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What, Me–Worry?

  Science Says That Women Who Worry Have Overloaded Brains (No Kidding) Want to know the main reason Tired But Happy Mom is tired? She wakes up at around five o’clock in the morning, almost every morning. This is not because she is a morning person. It is because she worries. A lot. For instance, this morning Tired But Happy Mom worried that Older Daughter is entering the sixth grade this fall and that, because she is changing schools, the entrance into the dreaded middle school passage—combined with the inevitable hormonal...

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Tired But Happy Mom and Germs: Are More Better?

Eleven years ago, when Tired But Happy Mom returned from the hospital with her first baby, she endured the first of many germ-related meltdowns. On the first morning home, she spotted a spider in the corner of the living room. A spider! In the proximity of her vulnerable newborn! Next thing she knew, Oldest Daughter came down with Coxsackie virus, which emblistered the feet, hands, and throat of her 3-month-old little body. Tired But Happy Mom was confident that an older child of a friend had spread the offending virus to her precious...

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